Category: wellbeing
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Ending therapy. Three reasons i am afraid, four ways to overcome my fear.
I have been honest with Chris that I am nervous about ending therapy. But to date I have failed to articulate with any decent effect what it is I am afraid of. After a lovely night chatting with a wonderful friend I think I have cracked what the fear is and as knowledge is power…
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Trauma Therapy Session 19: Post day 1. Phobia of compliments.
Last night I was a complete mess prior to this session. Once again struggling with navigating some of these conversations. An increasing part of me just wanted to back away from therapy but I recognise the drivers for that are fear based and not productive. Chris offered a brilliant quote today one from Obama… ‘You…
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Trauma Therapy Session 19: Post day 6. Opening up a Conversation.
I always knew I wanted to have this conversation with someone who was much more knowledgable and informed than me. I had little idea where to start but as is often the case it was so valuable. My eldest daughter has always asked after her grand parents. Previously she would ask very direct questions. “Why…
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Three ways to respond when someone shares a traumatic history
Stephen and I were debating in bed tonight how you might respond to someone who shares with you a traumatic experience. (I know what pillow talk right! But the kids are off school and the only chance we get to talk about the real stuff is when everyone is in bed). We were discussing how…
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The next evolution. Because being true to who we are is essential.
For the steely eyed amongst you, you will have picked up on my recent name change. And I have finally been able to update the website. RowanAderyn.com A day in bed feeling poorly can do wonders for the to-do list when web design is involved. Beyond changing my actual name I also took the opportunity…
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Recovery after therapy. Five ways to help you feel better.
Sometimes therapy is hard. The process of digging up old memories and sorting through them. The action of exposing emotions and learning to sit with them. Often the more productive a session the harder it feels. It can literally feel like you have run a marathon. Creating not just a mental but a physical exhaustion.…
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Poetry to ignite the soul: Lost in a sea of pain
Find me… Beyond the shore, we’re the darkness meets the black. Where hope lays beyond the horizon and you are asked to trust without knowing, it is there, waiting to be discovered. Left a drift in a sea of despair, lonely in the echo of an endless night. Clutching at energy to stay a float,…
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Lonely in my abuse. Can you have imposter syndrome in your life?
Oh the irony, I recognised last night as I work through and process the horrific things which I struggled through for decades I feel more and more alone. Isolated in a sea of people who gratefully as far as I know have no such similar experience. Then this morning I go for my run select…
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Freedom from heart ache. Letting go of the things which hold us back.
Today I let go of a long held reminder that had weighed heavily on me for years. When mum past away she did not own much. She was still living in a mental health facility at the time, she had only one bedroom other than the shared spaces and with such a tumultuous life behind…
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Trauma Therapy Session 17: Post day 4. I love making progress painful as it is.
The starter for ten… Dam that Dr earns his money. We covered loads and also nothing. At the beginning of the session we reflected on a couple of things and sign posted a conversation for the future. Then we had a really helpful conversation about speaking to other people or more so other people speaking…
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