Tag: mental health
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Trauma Therapy Session 19: Post day 3. Realistic goals for compliments
Much of todays discussion focused around compliments. We had a really good conversation about how I am progressing with the homework, which realistically I was not doing as well as I would like at. The limiting compliments to one a day appears to have had little benefit other than once it passes I can relax…
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Trauma Therapy Session 19: Post day 1. Phobia of compliments.
Last night I was a complete mess prior to this session. Once again struggling with navigating some of these conversations. An increasing part of me just wanted to back away from therapy but I recognise the drivers for that are fear based and not productive. Chris offered a brilliant quote today one from Obama… ‘You…
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Trauma Therapy Session 19: Post day 6. Opening up a Conversation.
I always knew I wanted to have this conversation with someone who was much more knowledgable and informed than me. I had little idea where to start but as is often the case it was so valuable. My eldest daughter has always asked after her grand parents. Previously she would ask very direct questions. “Why…
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Three ways to respond when someone shares a traumatic history
Stephen and I were debating in bed tonight how you might respond to someone who shares with you a traumatic experience. (I know what pillow talk right! But the kids are off school and the only chance we get to talk about the real stuff is when everyone is in bed). We were discussing how…
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Trauma Therapy Session 18: Post day 8. Alone but accepting.
It’s a strange thing to try and describe. For years I denied the abuse I lived through. I pushed it aside, minimised it, fort my way forward never standing still long enough for any of it to settle. Some how as I did that I felt closer to those around me. Sure at times when…
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Who am I
Who am I? But an echo of fate yet struck A muddle of loss and hope A dance yet spun Or die yet cast Who am I? Am I anything or everything until I am nothing Is it not only then that my story is written I can be defined If I am not until…
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Recovery after therapy. Five ways to help you feel better.
Sometimes therapy is hard. The process of digging up old memories and sorting through them. The action of exposing emotions and learning to sit with them. Often the more productive a session the harder it feels. It can literally feel like you have run a marathon. Creating not just a mental but a physical exhaustion.…
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Poetry to ignite the soul: Lost in a sea of pain
Find me… Beyond the shore, we’re the darkness meets the black. Where hope lays beyond the horizon and you are asked to trust without knowing, it is there, waiting to be discovered. Left a drift in a sea of despair, lonely in the echo of an endless night. Clutching at energy to stay a float,…
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Lonely in my abuse. Can you have imposter syndrome in your life?
Oh the irony, I recognised last night as I work through and process the horrific things which I struggled through for decades I feel more and more alone. Isolated in a sea of people who gratefully as far as I know have no such similar experience. Then this morning I go for my run select…
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Freedom from heart ache. Letting go of the things which hold us back.
Today I let go of a long held reminder that had weighed heavily on me for years. When mum past away she did not own much. She was still living in a mental health facility at the time, she had only one bedroom other than the shared spaces and with such a tumultuous life behind…
Rowan Aderyn 