Tag: wellbeing
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A record day of posting. Why you should always give yourself time.
Last night I was so angry. Angry with myself for wanting a life I didn’t think was rightfully mine. For building my happiness in denial and lies. For lighting the match which could burn it all. I was ready to wipe the slate clean. To step away from all the friends and family I love.…
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Authentic self. What the hell is that anyway!!!
I think it’s going to be a blogging day. Writing is such a salve. It doesn’t matter if no one even reads them they are there. And I can imagine the moment of clarity they might offer, or intriguing question they may create. So for anyone who follows me turn off email notifications, I think…
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Time to give it back. Too good for too long.
Let this be a cautionary tale for anyone out there denying a part of who you are. Sooner or later you will choose to be more open with yourself or the world will find out. And when it does and that perfect little existence you built begins to crumble in front of your eyes, hard…
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Excited about time off work, it’s in the little moments.
For many people this will sound like a strange thing but I am so excited about the fact I am looking forward to a break from work. It appears to be another welcome side effect of improving my mental health. Historically I wouldn’t look forward to time off. I would feel the need to fill…
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Get ready to blast off. A short reflection on a year and a life.
So it’s my birthday today. And well it has been a really wonderful and interesting and tricky year. Before this year I was decided the past was the past and that is exactly where it should stay. But it wasn’t healthy. As much as most days I was able to keep a lid on it.…
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Starting a hard conversation. Advice is often easier to give than take.
Well that was the start of a conversation I have managed to avoid for around a decade. It was so hard, but I am glad I managed to start it. Preparing to begin… I have been speaking with my therapist Chris about how to talk to my eldest daughter about my childhood. She has frequently…
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Trauma Therapy Session 19: The Magic pill EMDR at least for some
Continuing to share a journey through therapy in the hopes it helps someone else find their path. I was so hesitant about today. I must admit I think part of me was a bit of a skeptic. I didn’t see how waving my eyes back and forth or tapping my legs would make any difference.…
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Trauma Therapy Session 19: Post day 3. Realistic goals for compliments
Much of todays discussion focused around compliments. We had a really good conversation about how I am progressing with the homework, which realistically I was not doing as well as I would like at. The limiting compliments to one a day appears to have had little benefit other than once it passes I can relax…
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Trauma Therapy Session 19: Post day 1. Phobia of compliments.
Last night I was a complete mess prior to this session. Once again struggling with navigating some of these conversations. An increasing part of me just wanted to back away from therapy but I recognise the drivers for that are fear based and not productive. Chris offered a brilliant quote today one from Obama… ‘You…
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Trauma Therapy Session 19: Post day 6. Opening up a Conversation.
I always knew I wanted to have this conversation with someone who was much more knowledgable and informed than me. I had little idea where to start but as is often the case it was so valuable. My eldest daughter has always asked after her grand parents. Previously she would ask very direct questions. “Why…
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